How to build REAL confidence | What confidence is & isn’t…
Many think that confidence is something you have or don’t.
You’ll hear things like, “Fake it til you make it” or “You just have to do it…”
It’s a good thing I’m here to set the record straight.
In my experience working with all types of creatives, confidence is best described as a muscle.
Why a muscle? because you only build it by taking consistent action. The kind that makes you uncomfortable.
Trusting yourself in any situation, especially new ones, takes practice.
Below are 3 distinct ways to help you shift to from courage to confidence:
1. Building your Self Awareness & Clarity
Getting crystal clear about how you sparkle, shine & show up. In order to “shine”, you have
to be comfortable speaking up about who you are, who you’re not AND what you’re capable of.
Bringing all of who of you are to the table, unapologetically.
Clarity let’s you speak & stand for what you’re sure of about yourself; without hesitation.
Not speaking up or hesitation is a sign of lack of clarity and needing to be rooted & grounded.
Once you own you who you are, no one else ever can.
Check out the video below to understand more about how this information
& insight can work against you OR for you…
2. Learning & then Testing what you Invested in
When we’re learning it’s easy to feel “accomplished” because we took some form of action.
Yes you took action, a small comfortable one and that makes you feel like you’ve done something.
Remember though, real confidence is built by taking uncomfortable action.
The uncomfortable action is always testing what you invested in. You don’t know if you’ve truly learned something until you’re tested. If you’ve ever failed a test or a very important class, you get crystal clear
on how well you “know” what you set out to learn.
Many are terrified to test anything because they don’t want to fail or lose.
That is where the magic of building confidence is missed. Confidence is the willingness to try, regardless of
the outcome. If you avoid testing what you’re doing, you’ll never accomplish what you long to.
3. Defeat your defaults… aka your need to always be safe.
The greatest risk you can take is to focus on doing everything you can to stay safe.
We naturally tend to default to what we’ve always done when it’s time to move to a new level.
Any level of discomfort or fear we are hard wired to avoid or run from. Never give in to it!
There is no growth of progress in a place of comfort or safety. So to defeat it, this is where self awareness
comes in majorly handy. If you know you’re going to have to face a difficult task and you need accountability, guidance or any set of circumstances to help you move, you can set yourself up to win. Sometimes you’ll be able to move through your blocks with ease, others you’ll need a model to help support you. Much like a trusted
parent or well designed “training” wheels made to support you in your independent learning.
Seek to learn about what keeps you from moving forward and then do the work to defeat it.
Make it your business to beat yourself at your own game. Your confidence will skyrocket!
To learn more about building solid confidence as a creative, business owner, influencer or brand, join
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